wats a frnd...it seems like one f thos easy questions but d answer is tougher than u think.. d fact of d matter is we still dnt no ...its a paradox for most f us and with dis cus a tuff lesson, and unfortunately it seems, u only learn dis by living, television doesn’t teach it, schools dont teach it, and if your above a certain age, our parents dint teach it. you have to learn it by living, by thinkin of some1 as a frnd, only to find out they dnt think of u as 1. it can be devastating, i know, believe me ive been der myself but all the wishing, all the manipulation, all the determination, just serves to push the wud-be friend further away. Because friendship is something you choose to do, you dont do it out of a sense of obligation, to force some1 to be a friend is to not have a friend.
i learned alot bout frnds through alot f stupid n dumb situations iv been in...most f u who no me well no wat im talkin bout. i learned that a friend is some1 i trust to b wid me when im at my weakest and most vulnerable. nd they are people who no matter how painful it is to see are willing to be with me when im so helpless and weak. if i wud trust my life with u, and vice versa, we r frnds. it aint bout whether u are trustworthy, or whether u are friendly, its the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If i trust u to be truthful, then youre a friend. if i find i must be careful how i say things, then its sumthin other than friendship.
Friendship aint a state of mind, its an act. its sumthing u do, its not about whether ur good or not, its not a reflection of u, its a balanced relationship between ppl. dat dsnt mean its always balanced at every moment. Sumtimes u “need a friend” and other times its the other way. its a trust thats returned.
few years bak a person i knw thot he was in love, a frnd(me) said its not love unless its returned. friendship and love are not quite the same thing, although theres a lot of love around friendship. I learned that love isnt even something about two people, it’s a state of being for one person. You arent in love, you are love. u are, whether you acknowledge it or not. D heart dat’s pumping blood through ur body is an act of love, 24 hours a day, whether ur Mother Teresa or even Hitler.ders a world of morons nd imbeciles who cant c d difference between being a friend and being a peer. ive heard people who ive never met say were friends. And then of course when I do something they dont like, ive betrayed the supposed friendship. They are livin in a dreamworld. wakeup assholes, ur frnd aint here....
